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MOMENTUM BLOG
Ideas, Stories & Ways To Keep Moving Forward
Explore honest insights, practical advice and stories about friendship, wellbeing, confidence, connection and life as a man.
Mental Health Insights


Managing ADHD as a Man After a Diagnosis Later in Life
Getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult can feel like a mix of relief and confusion. You finally have a name for the struggles you’ve faced, but now you’re wondering how to manage it. For men over 30, especially those living in Plymouth, this journey can be challenging but also full of hope. I want to share some practical ways to handle ADHD after a late diagnosis and highlight a local service that can really make a difference.
Alan Stokes
Jun 144 min read


Managing ADHD as a Man After a Diagnosis Later in Life
Getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult can feel like a mix of relief and confusion. You finally have an explanation for years of struggles, but now you face the challenge of managing it in your daily life. For men over 30, especially those living in Plymouth, this journey can be both unique and demanding. I want to share what I’ve learned about handling ADHD after a late diagnosis, with practical tips and some helpful tools that can make a real difference.
Alan Stokes
Jun 104 min read


How Do You Deal With Being Kept Away From Your Children When a Relationship Breaks Down?
UK guide for men when contact stops: how to stabilise, communicate, use mediation, and record efforts—while safeguarding your child’s wellbeing.
Alan Stokes
Dec 16, 20255 min read


When Silence Speaks: What We Avoid Tells a Story
Silence tells a story. Spot the fears behind avoidance and use practical scripts to have calmer, more honest conversations.
Alan Stokes
Dec 9, 20254 min read


When Men Lose Their Role or Identity: Finding Your Way Back
Struggling with divorce, redundancy or retirement? Learn how to handle role loss, manage emotions and rebuild a stronger sense of self.
Alan Stokes
Dec 2, 20254 min read


Small Cracks, Big Impact: How Everyday Stress Builds Without Notice
Burnout doesn’t hit overnight. Spot small stress cracks in 60 seconds and use 1% habits—breath, sleep, boundaries—to feel better fast.
Alan Stokes
Nov 25, 20254 min read


How Modern Life Trains Us to Ignore Our Own Needs
Modern life pressures men to push aside their needs. Discover why it happens, the hidden costs, and how groups like MoMENtum create connection and belonging.
Alan Stokes
Nov 18, 20255 min read


The Hidden Cost of Always Saying “I’m Fine”
Discover why men default to “I’m fine,” the hidden costs of silence, and how MoMENtum events in Plymouth help men connect, belong, and thrive.
Alan Stokes
Nov 11, 20255 min read


Why Rest Feels Harder Than Work (and What to Do About It)
If you’ve ever sat down to “switch off” and immediately felt guilty, restless, or itchy for your phone—this is for you. Many men tell me...
Alan Stokes
Nov 4, 20254 min read


Are You Lonely? The Feeling We Don’t Talk About
“Loneliness is the signal men rarely speak about. Discover why silence around loneliness harms wellbeing—and how honest connection can change everything.”
Alan Stokes
Oct 31, 20254 min read


Exploring the Benefits of Men's Community Groups
When life gets busy and responsibilities pile up, it’s easy to feel isolated. Many of us crave connection but don’t always know where to find it. That’s where men's groups come in. These groups offer a space to share, support, and grow together. They’re about more than just meeting up - they create a sense of belonging and purpose. Joining a men's community group can be a game-changer. It’s a place where men over 30 in Plymouth can find friendship, encouragement, and practic
Alan Stokes
Oct 31, 20253 min read


The Mask of Perfection: Breaking Free from the Burden
“Why chasing ‘flawless’ keeps men stuck. Discover how putting down the perfect shield eases pressure, reduces isolation, and builds real strength through connection.”
Alan Stokes
Oct 24, 20254 min read


Embracing Vulnerability: A Path to Connection and Growth
Discover why vulnerability isn’t weakness, how avoidance harms relationships, and practical steps to build courage, honesty, and connection.
Alan Stokes
Oct 17, 20254 min read


Shame – the Silent Pain We Carry
The “never good enough” feeling Shame is the emotion that whispers, “You’re not enough.” It shapes our inner commentary and nudges us to...
Alan Stokes
Oct 10, 20253 min read


The Mask of Perfection, the Fear of Vulnerability, and the Cost of Silence
Discover how perfectionism and silence hurt men’s wellbeing—and how vulnerability, honesty, and brotherhood build real strength.
Alan Stokes
Oct 3, 20254 min read


Accountability & Brotherhood: Why Men Can’t Do This Alone
MoMENtum Men’s Group helps men in Plymouth build accountability, brotherhood, and connection. Discover why no man thrives alone.
Alan Stokes
Sep 26, 20253 min read


Riding the Rollercoaster of Starting Something New: My Journey with MoMENtum Men’s Group
“Starting MoMENtum Men’s Group has been a rollercoaster of excitement, fear, and hope. Discover the highs, lows, and lessons of building something that matters.”
Alan Stokes
Sep 20, 20254 min read


Men, Shame, and the “Not Good Enough” Trap
Discover how shame impacts men’s mental health and relationships, and learn practical steps to break the cycle.
Alan Stokes
Sep 19, 20253 min read
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