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Mental Health Awareness


Managing ADHD as a Man After a Diagnosis Later in Life
Getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult can feel like a mix of relief and confusion. You finally have a name for the struggles you’ve faced, but now you’re wondering how to manage it. For men over 30, especially those living in Plymouth, this journey can be challenging but also full of hope. I want to share some practical ways to handle ADHD after a late diagnosis and highlight a local service that can really make a difference.
Alan Stokes
Jun 144 min read


Getting the Balance of Life Right and Making Time for You
Finding the right balance in life can feel like chasing a shadow. Between work, family, and social commitments, it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters—making time for yourself. I’ve been there, juggling too many things and feeling stretched thin. But over time, I’ve learned that carving out moments just for me isn’t selfish; it’s essential.
Alan Stokes
Jun 45 min read


Breaking the Silence: Why Men in Plymouth Need to Talk
Ever noticed how men often dodge serious conversations about what’s really on their minds? Instead of opening up, many crack jokes or change the subject. It’s like there’s an unspoken rule: don’t show worry, just laugh it off. But why is that? Why do so many men find it easier to use humour as a shield rather than talk honestly about their worries?
Alan Stokes
May 214 min read


The Pressure of Being the Strong One
I think a lot of men quietly break under pressure long before anybody notices.
Not because they are weak.
But because they become too good at hiding it.
Over the last few years, I found myself carrying pressures from every direction at once.
Alan Stokes
May 214 min read


Sometimes Life Beats the Hell Out of You
There were moments over the last couple of years where life brought me to my knees.
Not in a dramatic, cinematic way. Not all at once.
It happened slowly.
Quietly.
One difficult conversation at a time.
One sleepless night at a time.
One more responsibility.
One more fear.
One more loss.
One more thing to carry while pretending I was still coping.
From the outside, I probably looked functional.
I still worked.
Still spoke to people.
Still tried to lead.
Still showed up.
Alan Stokes
May 144 min read


How Do You Deal With Being Kept Away From Your Children When a Relationship Breaks Down?
UK guide for men when contact stops: how to stabilise, communicate, use mediation, and record efforts—while safeguarding your child’s wellbeing.
Alan Stokes
Dec 16, 20255 min read


When Silence Speaks: What We Avoid Tells a Story
Silence tells a story. Spot the fears behind avoidance and use practical scripts to have calmer, more honest conversations.
Alan Stokes
Dec 9, 20254 min read


When Men Lose Their Role or Identity: Finding Your Way Back
Struggling with divorce, redundancy or retirement? Learn how to handle role loss, manage emotions and rebuild a stronger sense of self.
Alan Stokes
Dec 2, 20254 min read


Small Cracks, Big Impact: How Everyday Stress Builds Without Notice
Burnout doesn’t hit overnight. Spot small stress cracks in 60 seconds and use 1% habits—breath, sleep, boundaries—to feel better fast.
Alan Stokes
Nov 25, 20254 min read


How Modern Life Trains Us to Ignore Our Own Needs
Modern life pressures men to push aside their needs. Discover why it happens, the hidden costs, and how groups like MoMENtum create connection and belonging.
Alan Stokes
Nov 18, 20255 min read


The Hidden Cost of Always Saying “I’m Fine”
Discover why men default to “I’m fine,” the hidden costs of silence, and how MoMENtum events in Plymouth help men connect, belong, and thrive.
Alan Stokes
Nov 11, 20255 min read


Why Rest Feels Harder Than Work (and What to Do About It)
If you’ve ever sat down to “switch off” and immediately felt guilty, restless, or itchy for your phone—this is for you. Many men tell me...
Alan Stokes
Nov 4, 20254 min read


Are You Lonely? The Feeling We Don’t Talk About
“Loneliness is the signal men rarely speak about. Discover why silence around loneliness harms wellbeing—and how honest connection can change everything.”
Alan Stokes
Oct 31, 20254 min read


Exploring the Benefits of Men's Community Groups
When life gets busy and responsibilities pile up, it’s easy to feel isolated. Many of us crave connection but don’t always know where to find it. That’s where men's groups come in. These groups offer a space to share, support, and grow together. They’re about more than just meeting up - they create a sense of belonging and purpose. Joining a men's community group can be a game-changer. It’s a place where men over 30 in Plymouth can find friendship, encouragement, and practic
Alan Stokes
Oct 31, 20253 min read


Riding the Rollercoaster of Starting Something New: My Journey with MoMENtum Men’s Group
“Starting MoMENtum Men’s Group has been a rollercoaster of excitement, fear, and hope. Discover the highs, lows, and lessons of building something that matters.”
Alan Stokes
Sep 20, 20254 min read
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