Alan Stokes

“Just open up.” It’s common advice. Simple. Direct. Well-intended. But for a lot of men, it doesn’t feel simple at all. In fact, it can feel:  Unnatural  Forced  Uncomfortable  Even unnecessary So instead of helping, it often creates resistance. And that raises a better question: Why does opening up feel so difficult in the first place?

When I first heard about men's groups, I admit I was a bit skeptical. What could a bunch of blokes chatting over tea or a pint really offer? But as someone who's navigated the ups and downs of life in Plymouth, I quickly realised these groups are more than just social clubs. They are lifelines - places where men over 30 can find connection, support, and a sense of belonging. If you’re like me, juggling work, family, and the occasional bout of loneliness, this might just be the community you...

A lot of men are busy. Work is full. Days are structured. There’s always something to do. From the outside, it can look like things are going well. But underneath that, there’s a different experience. A sense that despite everything being in place… Something still isn’t quite right.