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How Do You Deal With Being Kept Away From Your Children When a Relationship Breaks Down?
UK guide for men when contact stops: how to stabilise, communicate, use mediation, and record efforts—while safeguarding your child’s wellbeing.
Alan Stokes
20 hours ago5 min read


When Silence Speaks: What We Avoid Tells a Story
Silence tells a story. Spot the fears behind avoidance and use practical scripts to have calmer, more honest conversations.
Alan Stokes
Dec 94 min read


When Men Lose Their Role or Identity: Finding Your Way Back
Struggling with divorce, redundancy or retirement? Learn how to handle role loss, manage emotions and rebuild a stronger sense of self.
Alan Stokes
Dec 24 min read


How Modern Life Trains Us to Ignore Our Own Needs
Modern life pressures men to push aside their needs. Discover why it happens, the hidden costs, and how groups like MoMENtum create connection and belonging.
Alan Stokes
Nov 185 min read


The Hidden Cost of Always Saying “I’m Fine”
Discover why men default to “I’m fine,” the hidden costs of silence, and how MoMENtum events in Plymouth help men connect, belong, and thrive.
Alan Stokes
Nov 115 min read


Why Rest Feels Harder Than Work (and What to Do About It)
If you’ve ever sat down to “switch off” and immediately felt guilty, restless, or itchy for your phone—this is for you. Many men tell me...
Alan Stokes
Nov 44 min read


Are You Lonely? The Feeling We Don’t Talk About
“Loneliness is the signal men rarely speak about. Discover why silence around loneliness harms wellbeing—and how honest connection can change everything.”
Alan Stokes
Oct 314 min read


The Mask of Perfection: Breaking Free from the Burden
“Why chasing ‘flawless’ keeps men stuck. Discover how putting down the perfect shield eases pressure, reduces isolation, and builds real strength through connection.”
Alan Stokes
Oct 244 min read


Embracing Vulnerability: A Path to Connection and Growth
Discover why vulnerability isn’t weakness, how avoidance harms relationships, and practical steps to build courage, honesty, and connection.
Alan Stokes
Oct 174 min read


Shame – the Silent Pain We Carry
The “never good enough” feeling Shame is the emotion that whispers, “You’re not enough.” It shapes our inner commentary and nudges us to...
Alan Stokes
Oct 103 min read


The Mask of Perfection, the Fear of Vulnerability, and the Cost of Silence
Discover how perfectionism and silence hurt men’s wellbeing—and how vulnerability, honesty, and brotherhood build real strength.
Alan Stokes
Oct 34 min read


Accountability & Brotherhood: Why Men Can’t Do This Alone
MoMENtum Men’s Group helps men in Plymouth build accountability, brotherhood, and connection. Discover why no man thrives alone.
Alan Stokes
Sep 263 min read


Riding the Rollercoaster of Starting Something New: My Journey with MoMENtum Men’s Group
“Starting MoMENtum Men’s Group has been a rollercoaster of excitement, fear, and hope. Discover the highs, lows, and lessons of building something that matters.”
Alan Stokes
Sep 204 min read


Men, Shame, and the “Not Good Enough” Trap
Discover how shame impacts men’s mental health and relationships, and learn practical steps to break the cycle.
Alan Stokes
Sep 193 min read
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