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MOMENTUM BLOG
Ideas, Stories & Ways To Keep Moving Forward
Explore honest insights, practical advice and stories about friendship, wellbeing, confidence, connection and life as a man.


The Journey of Change: Why Showing Up Matters
For a lot of men, the hardest part isn’t knowing something needs to change.
It’s doing something about it.
Not because they don’t want to.
But because:
They’re unsure what it’ll be like
They don’t know anyone there
It feels slightly outside their normal routine
So the idea stays as an idea.
“I might go at some point.”
“I’ll check it out another time.”
And nothing changes.
Alan Stokes
Jul 223 min read


“You Don’t Need Therapy — You Need Connection (Here’s Why)”
When something feels off, the default advice is often:
“Maybe you should talk to someone.”
And for some people, that’s exactly what helps.
But for a lot of men, the response is different.
Not resistant.
Not dismissive.
Just… not quite right.
Because the issue they’re experiencing isn’t always something that needs to be analysed or unpacked.
More often than not, it’s something much simpler.
They’re missing connection.
Alan Stokes
Jul 153 min read


“Why Opening Up Feels So Uncomfortable (And What To Do Instead)”
“Just open up.”
It’s common advice.
Simple. Direct. Well-intended.
But for a lot of men, it doesn’t feel simple at all.
In fact, it can feel:
Unnatural
Forced
Uncomfortable
Even unnecessary
So instead of helping, it often creates resistance.
And that raises a better question:
Why does opening up feel so difficult in the first place?
Alan Stokes
Jul 83 min read


Rebuilding Your Life After a Relationship Breakdown
Breaking up is tough. It shakes your world and leaves you wondering how to move forward. If you’re a man over 30 in Plymouth, feeling isolated or unsure about what comes next, you’re not alone. Rebuilding your life after a relationship ends takes time, patience, and the right support.
Alan Stokes
Jun 63 min read


Learn about the Benefits of Joining Momentum Men Support Group in Plymouth
MoMENtum Men’s Support Group helps men 30+ in Plymouth beat loneliness, build real friendships, share experiences, and feel supported.
Alan Stokes
Jan 255 min read


Living Alone as a Man: How to Beat Loneliness Without Losing Yourself
Living alone as a man often looks fine from the outside. You’re working. You’re paying the bills. You’re “getting on with it.”No drama. No crisis. No obvious problems. And yet, many men quietly admit the same thing once they feel safe enough to say it: “It just gets a bit empty.” This article is for men who live alone — whether by choice, circumstance, or life transition — and who want real connection without therapy jargon, forced vulnerability, or being told to ‘just talk m
Alan Stokes
Jan 134 min read


How Do You Deal With Being Kept Away From Your Children When a Relationship Breaks Down?
UK guide for men when contact stops: how to stabilise, communicate, use mediation, and record efforts—while safeguarding your child’s wellbeing.
Alan Stokes
Dec 16, 20255 min read


When Silence Speaks: What We Avoid Tells a Story
Silence tells a story. Spot the fears behind avoidance and use practical scripts to have calmer, more honest conversations.
Alan Stokes
Dec 9, 20254 min read


When Men Lose Their Role or Identity: Finding Your Way Back
Struggling with divorce, redundancy or retirement? Learn how to handle role loss, manage emotions and rebuild a stronger sense of self.
Alan Stokes
Dec 2, 20254 min read


Small Cracks, Big Impact: How Everyday Stress Builds Without Notice
Burnout doesn’t hit overnight. Spot small stress cracks in 60 seconds and use 1% habits—breath, sleep, boundaries—to feel better fast.
Alan Stokes
Nov 25, 20254 min read


How Modern Life Trains Us to Ignore Our Own Needs
Modern life pressures men to push aside their needs. Discover why it happens, the hidden costs, and how groups like MoMENtum create connection and belonging.
Alan Stokes
Nov 18, 20255 min read


The Hidden Cost of Always Saying “I’m Fine”
Discover why men default to “I’m fine,” the hidden costs of silence, and how MoMENtum events in Plymouth help men connect, belong, and thrive.
Alan Stokes
Nov 11, 20255 min read


Riding the Rollercoaster of Starting Something New: My Journey with MoMENtum Men’s Group
“Starting MoMENtum Men’s Group has been a rollercoaster of excitement, fear, and hope. Discover the highs, lows, and lessons of building something that matters.”
Alan Stokes
Sep 20, 20254 min read
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