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“Why Most Men Struggle to Make New Friends After 30”
Making friends used to be straightforward.
School. College. Work. Sport.
You were around people regularly, and connection happened naturally.
There wasn’t much thought involved.
But at some point—usually in your 30's—that changes.
Not dramatically.
Just enough to notice that:
It’s not as easy as it used to be.
Alan Stokes
6 days ago3 min read


When Your Social Life Disappears Without You Noticing
It doesn’t usually happen suddenly.
There’s no clear moment where you think:
“That’s it. My social life’s gone.”
It’s more gradual than that.
You get busy.
Life fills up.
Priorities shift.
And somewhere along the way, without really noticing…
Your social life fades into the background.
Alan Stokes
Jun 173 min read


The Silent Pressure on Men to ‘Hold It All Together’
There’s a pressure a lot of men carry.
Not always spoken about.
Not always obvious.
But it’s there.
Alan Stokes
Jun 103 min read


Getting the Balance of Life Right and Making Time for You
Finding the right balance in life can feel like chasing a shadow. Between work, family, and social commitments, it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters—making time for yourself. I’ve been there, juggling too many things and feeling stretched thin. But over time, I’ve learned that carving out moments just for me isn’t selfish; it’s essential.
Alan Stokes
Jun 45 min read


Why Men Don’t Talk (And What Actually Helps Instead)
“Men just don’t talk.”
It’s something you hear a lot.
Said casually.
Repeated often.
Almost accepted as fact.
But when you look closer, it’s not quite true.
Because men do talk.
Just not always in the way people expect.
And not always in environments that make it easy.
Alan Stokes
Jun 34 min read


Ways to Make New Friends with Momentum
Making new friends as an adult can feel tricky. Life gets busy, routines settle in, and chances to meet new people seem rare. But building friendships is worth the effort. It brings support, fun, and a sense of belonging. The key is to create momentum—small steps that lead to lasting connections. I want to share some practical ways to do just that, especially if you’re in Plymouth and looking for a community of like-minded men over 30.
Alan Stokes
Jun 24 min read


How to Get Over a Relationship Breakdown and Find Your Way Forward
Breaking up is tough. It shakes your world and leaves you feeling lost. If you’re a man over 30 in Plymouth, you might find yourself wondering how to move on, how to heal, and how to rebuild your life. I’ve been there, and I want to share some honest, practical advice that helped me and many others find a way through the pain.
Alan Stokes
May 294 min read


Discover the Value of Local Men's Community Groups in Plymouth
When I first heard about local men's community groups in Plymouth, I was a bit skeptical. I thought, "Do I really need a group to hang out with other blokes?" But as I got involved, I quickly realised these groups offer so much more than just a place to meet. They create a space where men over 30 can connect, share, and support each other in ways that everyday life often doesn’t allow.
If you’re feeling a bit isolated or just want to find a community that understands the u
Alan Stokes
May 284 min read


“I Should Be Happy… So Why Don’t I Feel It?”
On paper, everything looks alright.
You’ve got a job.
You’re handling your responsibilities.
You’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing.
From the outside, there’s no obvious problem.
But internally, something doesn’t quite line up.
There’s a flatness to things.
A lack of real enjoyment.
A sense that you’re going through life… rather than actually in it.
And the confusing part is this:
You can’t always point to a clear reason why.
Alan Stokes
May 273 min read


Breaking the Silence: Why Men in Plymouth Need to Talk
Ever noticed how men often dodge serious conversations about what’s really on their minds? Instead of opening up, many crack jokes or change the subject. It’s like there’s an unspoken rule: don’t show worry, just laugh it off. But why is that? Why do so many men find it easier to use humour as a shield rather than talk honestly about their worries?
Alan Stokes
May 214 min read


Why So Many Men Feel Lonely — Even When Life Looks Fine
On the surface, a lot of men are doing fine.
They’re working. Providing. Showing up for their families. Getting on with things.
From the outside, life looks steady—even successful.But underneath that, something else is going on.
A quiet kind of loneliness that doesn’t always look like loneliness.
Not isolation in the obvious sense. Not sitting alone with no one around.
But a lack of real connection.
A sense that something’s missing—without being able to fully explain what it
Alan Stokes
May 204 min read


Making Friends as a Man: Why It Gets Harder — and What Actually Works
At some point, making friends as a man stops feeling natural. Work, routines, responsibilities, and unspoken rules get in the way—and suddenly connection feels awkward or out of reach. This isn’t a personal failure. It’s a pattern many men experience—and it can be changed.
Alan Stokes
Jan 274 min read


Learn about the Benefits of Joining Momentum Men Support Group in Plymouth
MoMENtum Men’s Support Group helps men 30+ in Plymouth beat loneliness, build real friendships, share experiences, and feel supported.
Alan Stokes
Jan 255 min read
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